tenbsmith update

[tenbsmith]

I've been away for awhile. My brother was diagnosed with advanced kidney cancer last Spring, and passed away in late October. It has been a difficult time, especially as work has become more intense as well and at times i've really felt like f@ck this job. Don't get me wrong it's a good job, but my attitude is not the best recently. Then my wife reminds me that i need to keep my job so we don't have to move into a micro bus, so I soldier on. Anyhow, i'll try to improve my attitude and swing by a bit more regularly. -T

[fallen]

tenbsmith - good to see and sorry to hear about your brother. Having two of my own, I know the loss must be very hard. Hope the cheery community here, some space aliens and adventures in other worlds can provide some respite from time to time.

But seriously, a mirco bus doesn't sound all that bad

[ntsheep]

tenbsmith Sorry to hear about the troubles you've been through. Do what you feel you need to lighten your load. We're here if you need us.

fallen, you must not have heard of the trouble Arlo Guthrie went through with his micro bus when he stopped to visit his friend's restaurant one day

[tenbsmith]

Well wishes appreciated. My visit may still be intermittent as work is still a crazy.

[Cory Trese]

May you find some peace in the whirlwind, tenbsmith. Glad to see a post from you -- good to hear you're still connected.

I can only imagine your grief, and the pain that you and your wife have suffered. I hope that time is able to provide some healing.

I hope that if you or your wife need support you are able to find it. We are all here for you if you need to chat.

[drdave]

My sympathies. We lost my Father-in-Law to prostate cancer a couple of years ago, it was a difficult time, especially for my wife. Even though I deal with this sort of thing regularly in my job, it is different when it's family.

Things do get better.

To echo what others have said, we're here if you need us.

[tenbsmith]

Thanks y'all. Ironically, i conduct research on quality of life among cancer patients and survivors, so this overlaps with my work too. When first diagnosed he was in and out of the hospital a lot with because blood clots from the tumor kept blocking his urethra and preventing him from peeing. Once they got that squared away he had good quality of life for his last 6 months of life and I had the opportunity to visit with him several times.

[ntsheep]

Wait a minute! They squared his urethra! I've heard of shitting bricks but never pissing blocks